I remember having a conversation with a guy I’d been in the same class with for 2years. I knew all his names, nick names, I could tell he was the one talking without even looking and I knew almost all his clothes.
I had never spoken to him. He was one of those students who had to be singled out by the lecturer for doing something wrong atleast 50 of the 8 times he came to class in an entire academic year. He was surprised I was in his class and as we got talking, he told me it was his birthday so he was having a party and I was invited. I accepted his invitation as quickly as possible as I always do when I have no intention of going and don’t want someone to try to convince me.
Somehow, he sensed I wouldn’t show and told me he knew I wouldn’t. He asked what I did for fun and when I said I watch movies, love gisting with my friends, love web surfing and sometimes read books, he screamed like I was an alien and something was wrong with me.
“You do not have a social life! Why are you antisocial?” He asked.
I spent the next 5minutes explaining the difference between antisocial and selectively social until I realised his opinion about me could not be changed. I gave up and that was the last time we spoke.
I was somewhat guilty because at that time, my resting bitch face was 101% legit. I used to give one word answers a lot and I always wore headphones. I only pull them out, reply a question, put them back on and quickly look away to avoid room for further small talk. Except Raphael who always asked me to take them off cus he wanted to talk about nothing in particular.
I agree that I do not like hanging out, I stay away from crowds. Cee knows first hand how difficult it is convincing me to go out. I feel it takes too much effort to dress up and go out so I am usually thrilled when an outing is cancelled.
I am also guilty of seeing people and unseeing them before they see me. Sometimes, seeing an acquintance after a while is a struggle because the awkwardness is palpable.
I do not know how to act in front of strangers or go to a party and raise my hands in the air like I just don’t care. cus I care.
I do not like it when people assume I am anti-social because I am overly social with people I know. So I feel they should be room for people who are selectively social.
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I just realised this post has a lot of “I’s”. Well, let’s all pretend not to notice.
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